Archive | December, 2011

In-flight Movies

20 Dec

On a flight on my way home from Hong Kong, I thought I would check out some in-flight movies. Baby is asleep, I have an hour, let’s catch up on the movie world! I started watching “Friends with Benefits” and didn’t get very far until every scene became a sex scene. I became rather uncomfortable thinking what other passengers and flight attendants would think if they walked by and looked at my screen. I switched movies. I wanted to watch something light-hearted and funny so I started watching “The Change Up”. I wasn’t too far into the movie when my screen became dominated by some sickening sex scene which was pretty much soft porn. I was shocked! I quickly pressed fast forward to skip the scene but every scene after that soft porn scene was a sex scene. I turned the movie off. It was either that or fast-forward the whole movie. This made me really ticked off! Is this really the kind of movie content out there now? Can I not watch a movie that is not all about sex?

TRUTH: Watching movies with a high level of sex scenes will get you thinking more about sex. It just will….there is no escaping it. The more you think about sex, the more you want to have sex & the messages the movies of today are telling their viewers is ‘go and have sex and have sex with anyone!’ ‘Sex is fun and it doesn’t hurt anyone!’ Definitely not the most helpful information to tell people!


How do you handle movies with a high level of sex scenes?

Do you feel you have to continue watching the scene or are you comfortable fast-forwarding it?

When your alone do you watch it or still fast-forward it? (What do you really do when no-one is watching?)

Do you screen movies (find out a bit about the movie & its rating) before watching them to make sure they are ok to watch?

If your friends want to watch a movie that you know is all about sex, do you suggest another movie or watch it anyway?

It’s so important to protect our thought life. The images we see on the screen are imprinted into our minds making it too easy to retrieve the images at any given time. When we have sexual images going through our mind, it’s very hard to keep our thought life clean and pure (not thinking about sex).

Here is a simple fact: Sex in real life is NOTHING like the movies. It’s not comparable. Sex scene in the movies is just ACTING. Don’t get sucked in to thinking that your real-life sex life will be like the movies.

You can have control over your thought life; your thought life does not have to control you.

Thoughts on screening movies:

  1. Find out a bit about the movie before you watch it. Is there a good story line or is just about relationship garbage? (I find there are way too many relationship garbage & sleeping around movies out there at the moment.)
    If there are no good movies in the cinema, just don’t watch one. Do something else that’s fun. You don’t have to settle and watch a movie that is rubbish.
  2. If your friends are watching it, you don’t have to. Take a stand. Walk out of the room, go home, hang out another time or hang out with someone else.
  3. Don’t feel you have to watch the sex scene. Pick up the remote and press fast forward or turn the movie off.
  4. Protect your thought life. No one else will. It is yours to control.

Sex = Taboo?!

2 Dec

When it comes to talking about sex, why do we go quiet, shut down, say next to nothing and avoid????

Growing up, did your parents talk to you about sex? If so, how much detail did they go into? Did you have questions you didn’t feel comfortable to ask?

Talking to people about what their parents taught them about sex, they say it was always an uncomfortable conversation. Uncomfortable for the parent and uncomfortable for the kid. Something that lasts 5 seconds and both people can’t wait for the conversation to end.
When the kid grows up into an adult, I wonder if their conversations about sex with their parents get any more comfortable…..probably not because they have grown up knowing that it’s not comfortable to talk about sex in the open.

We should keep nothing in the dark. Bringing things into the open brings freedom.
E.g. You may like a girl in your class and you find yourself always thinking about her. You talk to your friends about her all the time but when it comes to telling her how you feel, your heart is filled with anxiety and fear – ‘What about if she doesn’t like me back?’. But if you never put your feelings out in the open and tell her how you feel, you will never know whether she shares the same feelings for you. The freedom you get from sharing your feelings is knowing whether she feels the same way or you need to move on. There is freedom when you bring things out into the open.

The truth is young people are more comfortable learning about sex from magazines, books, Internet and friends. But when it comes to talking to adults, youth leaders, parents, counsellors, Pastors, Doctors, health professionals etc, the topic of sex is avoided……which is sad I think because all these people have great wisdom and knowledge to share with others too.

Have you ever talked to anyone aside from your friends about sex? Who was it? How did it go?

If you could talk to anyone about the topic of sex and dating and had the freedom to ask anything you wanted without being judged, what would you ask?

If you don’t have anyone in your world you feel comfortable talking to, you can chat to me….. I will answer your questions direct, email me or start a conversation below by commenting on this post.

Let’s get an open conversation started! 🙂

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